Two Cents on Listening

I’ve always wanted to start a blog in order to use it as a platform to ADVOCATE, discuss ideas, opinions, and let’s not forget the nitty gritty no one wants to touch base on. Most importantly, I want nothing more than to raise awareness on Mental Health, the LGBTQI2-S community, excessive drinking among young adults, fitness (the IMPORTANCE of maintaining physically healthy), for our mental health to be at par. Lastly, but not least […] my favorite topic. One which, I love to learn about on the daily basis that is a beautiful part of life, sexuality. Human sexuality and behavior is what I am intrigued by due to its importance.

Sexuality is innate, sexuality is the most mysterious and primal facet. Thus, why we SHOULD be talking about sexuality more. The primal aspects of it, how our reptilian brain has yet to adapt to the modern day and age “casual sexual relationships” as opposed to reproduction purposes. What leads us all to make the choices we make, why we feel how we feel, what motivates us, what lingers behind our actions.

As a teenager (I’d say from the age of 9-13) I kept journals. Some were for personal matters, like a diary almost. Others were fictional stories I would work up through my imagination. Writing fictional stories when I was younger was an escape from everything I was going through at the moment and struggling with.

I believe it is very easy and normal to feel indifferent about publicly speaking about things, any topic really. To be quite frank, it took a lot of self persuasion to get myself to start this blog, much less actually publish my first post. People tend to be very quick to make jokes and judge, it's inevitable.

We ALL deserve to feel safe and HEARD speaking to someone, unapologetically. There is a difference between really listening to someone, and just preparing yourself to speak as soon as they are done speaking.

If you are like me, growing up (and even as a *still* developing adult) I never had anyone to open up to or talk to. As a teenager, that caused me to act out in so many ways as a high schooler. As a result, I grew up very closed off. From my own family, intimate relationships, friends, etc. I learned at a very young age how to deal with things on my own terms. In all honesty, that's what draws me and makes me love listening to others.

As undeserving as someone may seem of a helping hand or just a simple listener, who are we to determine another persons right to comfort or just the simple act of being heard? We live in an age of communicate, but do we really "communicate" or do we just get by, by avoiding communication? We live in an age where we have cell phones, email, social media, blogs, but how much do we really communicate? Do we really LISTEN with so many distractions? I hear people talk, but I don't see people listen.

A big part of Mental Health recovery of any sort, is simply listening. Yes, there are various styles of therapy that can be approached. All of which are determined by what the person is initially complaint is, but if you sit and think about it, all it is, is simply someone listening to that person.

There is a huge stigma on Mental Health and it needs to stop already. Now, I know I'm not the first to say it and I certainly won't be the last but if we all sit around and not help or say anything, how will we ever get rid of that stigma?

All in all, with time I hope to gain an audience of people who can not only relate but would like to speak up too. Future posts will touch on various topics, gender fluidity, the genderbread person, depression, anxiety, fitness, and non-attachment vs detachment, and so much more. I've always wanted to have a platform to talk about all kinds of matters and I'm uuuubbbberrr excited to see where this goes!

If you've read this far, I hope you come back to read some more in the future :)

“You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view, until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.” – Atticus Finch in To Kill a Mockingbird (1962)